I talked to 70 parents who raised highly successful kids

I interviewed 70 parents who produced highly successful adults as part of my research and writing for "Raising an Entrepreneur."

Here are their four strict parenting standards that set them apart from the majority of other parents.

Even if you're hesitant to give your children the kind of independence Esther did.

"You may still offer kids things to do around the house to contribute to the family, such as chores," she said, "to teach them responsibility and confidence."

Children whose parents demonstrate how it feels to help people in need, whether across the globe or across the kitchen table, have an advantage in developing a compassionate viewpoint.

That lesson was taught to me as I grew older. "My father taught me that your gifts are hidden in your scars, and your failures are hidden in your possibilities," she remarked.

Kids need time to figure out what they want to do with their lives.

Kids need time to figure out what they want to do with their lives.

1. Give kids extreme independence 2. Actively nurture compassion 3. Welcome failure early and often 4. Let go of control and lead by following